Davidson Hang Reflections and Lessons from a life worth living

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Episode 68: Ending Your Work Week in a Powerful Way

I wanted to share with you all tips for completing your work week powerfully so that you can build awareness around the activities that gave you the best results.

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Episode 67: Davidson Hang Reflections and Lessons:Dale Carnegie's on How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie

 

These were the top ten passages that stood out to me when reading Dale Carnegie's book on how to stop worrying and start living.

 

"Two men looked out from prison bars, One saw the mud, the other saw stars. “I read those two lines over and over. I was ashamed of myself. I made up my mind I would find out what was good in my present situation. I would look for the stars. “I made friends with the natives, and their reaction amazed me. When I showed interest in their weaving and pottery, they gave me presents of their favorite pieces which they had refused to sell to tourists. I studied the fascinating forms of the cactus and the yuccas and the Joshua trees. I learned about prairie dogs, watched for the desert sunsets, and hunted for seashells that had been left there millions of years ago when “What brought about this astonishing change in me? The Mojave Desert hadn’t changed. The Indians hadn’t changed. But I had."

 

 

‘You think now that spending a year in bed will be a tragedy. But it won’t be. You will have time to think and get acquainted with yourself. You will make more spiritual growth in these next few months than you have made during all your previous life.’ I became calmer, and tried to develop a new sense of values."

 

“How many of you have ever sawed wood? Let’s see your hands.” Most of them had. Then he inquired: “How many of you have ever sawed sawdust?” No hands went up. “Of course, you can’t saw sawdust!” Mr. Shedd exclaimed. “It’s already sawed! And it’s the same with the past. When you start worrying about things that are over and done with, you're merely trying to saw sawdust.”

 

"Worry is like the constant drip, drip, drip of water; and the constant drip, drip, drip of worry often drives men to insanity and suicide."

 

‘Look here, Jim Grant, how many fruit cars have you handled over the years?’ The answer was: ‘About twenty five thousand.’ Then I asked myself: ‘How many of those cars were ever wrecked?’ The answer was: ‘Oh maybe five.’ Then I said to myself: ‘Only five-out of twenty-five thousand? Do you know what that means? A ratio of five thousand to one! In other words, by the law of averages, based on experience, the chances are five thousand to one against one of your cars ever being wrecked. So what are you worried about?’ “Then I said to myself: ‘Well, a bridge may collapse!' Then I asked myself: ‘How many cars have you actually lost from a bridge collapsing?’ The answer was-'None.’ Then I said to myself: ‘Aren’t you a fool to be worrying yourself into stomach ulcers over a bridge which has never yet collapsed, and over a railroad wreck when the chances are five thousand to one against it!'"

 

"Do I tend to put off living in the present in order to worry about the future, or to yearn for some “magical rose garden over the horizon”? 2. Do I sometimes embitter the present by regretting things that happened in the past that are over and done with? 3. Do I get up in the morning determined to “Seize the day”-to get the utmost out of these twenty-four hours? 4. Can I get more out of life by “living in day-tight compartments”? 5. When shall I start to do this? Next week? .. Tomorrow? ... Today?"

 

Ask yourself,' 'What is the worst that can possibly happen?” 2. Prepare to accept it if you have to. 3. Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst.

 

"I recently had some correspondence with Dr. Harold C. Habein of the Mayo Clinic. He read a paper at the annual meeting of the American Association of Industrial Physicians and Surgeons, saying that he had made a study of 176 business executives whose average age was 44.3 years. He reported that slightly more than a third of these executives suffered from one of three ailments peculiar to high-tension living-heart disease, digestive tract ulcers, and high blood pressure. Think of it- a third of our business executives are wrecking their bodies with heart disease, ulcers, and high blood pressure before they even reach forty-five. What price success! And they aren’t even buying success! Can any man possibly be a success who is paying for business advancement with stomach ulcers and heart trouble? What shall it profit a man if he gains the whole world-and loses his health?"

 

Keep a diary-a diary in which you ought to record your triumphs in the application of these principles. Be specific. Give names, dates, results. Keeping such a record will inspire you to greater efforts; and how fascinating these entries will be when you chance upon them some evening, years from now!

 

"Just For Today 1. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals. 2. Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them. 3. Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding. 4. Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration. 5. Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out. I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, as William James suggests, just for exercise. 6. Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not at all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regulate nor improve anyone. 7. Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime. 8. Just for today I will have a program. I will write down what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. It will eliminate two pests, hurry, and indecision. 9. Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. In this half-hour sometimes I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective into my life. 10. Just for today, I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me. If we want to develop a mental attitude that will bring us peace and happiness, here is Rule 1: Think and act cheerfully, and you will feel cheerful."

 

Here is the link to all of the passages that I highlighted. 

https://davidsonhang.com/2021/02/03/how-to-stop-worrying-and-start-living-by-dale-carnegie/

 

 

Episode 66: Davidson Hang Reflections and Lessons on a Life Worth Living: Kamala Harris' Book

These were my top ten quotes that resonated the most with me from her biography.

1. "For as long as ours has been a nation of immigrants, we have been a nation that fears immigrants. In the mid-1850s, the first significant third-party movement in the United States, the so-called Know-Nothing Party, rose to popularity on an anti-immigrant platform. In 1882, an act of Congress banned Chinese immigrants to the country. In 1917, Congress established a host of new restrictions on immigrants, including a requirement that immigrants would have to know how to read. In 1924, the number of newcomers allowed into the country from Southern and Eastern Europe was cut dramatically. In 1939, nearly 1,000 German Jews fleeing the Nazis in a ship called the St. Louis were turned away from the United States." 
2. "Children of immigrants also faced a new kind of torment: bullying. Kids are being taunted by other kids, told they will be deported, told their parents will be deported, told they should go back where they came from. The cruel words and actions of one prominent, powerful bully in the White House have been mimicked and adopted as the rallying cry of bullies everywhere. But how do you handle a bully? You stand up to him." 
3. "Whenever I travel to a country for the first time, I try to visit the highest court in the land. They are monuments of a certain kind, built not just to house a courtroom but to send a message. In New Delhi, for example, the Supreme Court of India is designed to symbolize the balancing scales of justice. In Jerusalem, Israel’s iconic Supreme Court building combines straight lines—which represent the rigid nature of the law—with curved walls and glass that represent the fluid nature of justice. These are buildings that speak. The same can be said of the United States Supreme Court Building, which, to my mind, is the most beautiful of them all. Its architecture recalls ancient Greece and the earliest days of democracy, as though you are standing in front of a modern-day Parthenon." 
4. "For most families, buying a home is the biggest purchase they will ever make. It’s a really special moment in your life, proof of all your hard work. You trust the people involved in the process. When the banker tells you that you qualify for a loan, you trust that she’s reviewed the numbers and won’t let you take on more than you can handle. When it comes time to finish the paperwork, it’s basically a signing ceremony that feels like a celebration. When the bankers put a stack of paper in front of you, you trust them, and you sign. And sign. And sign. And sign." 
5. "But the real reasons lie deeper in our complex financial system, of which mortgage lenders are just one piece. Lots of powerful people bent the rules and built elaborate schemes to make money off these bad loans. Even though most Americans didn’t realize it, our entire economy had grown dependent on these scams. But it was like building a tower of blocks on top of a balloon, and when the balloon popped, the entire economy came crashing down, and we ended up with the Great Recession." 
6. "But in the 1970s and ’80s, corporate America—the owners of big companies—decided to go its own way. Instead of spending the money the company earned on workers, the corporations decided that their only real obligation was to their shareholders, those who bought company stock and therefore owned a piece of the company. From big business’s perspective, it was those owners who deserved the lion’s share of the riches, not the people who made the company run. So while productivity kept improving—a whopping 74 percent between 1973 and 2013—workers’ pay rose just 9 percent. In the 1980s, President Reagan made that idea core to the Republican Party’s view of economics. Cut taxes for corporations. Cut taxes for shareholders. Oppose minimum wage increases for workers. Oppose the very idea of a minimum wage. Crush organized labor—unions—the most powerful force fighting for workers’ rights to fair wages and decent working conditions. Roll back government regulation of corporations. Ignore the human cost." 
7. "Second, I choose to speak truth. Even when it’s uncomfortable. Even when it leaves people feeling uneasy. When you speak truth, people won’t always walk away feeling good—and sometimes you won’t feel so great about the reaction you receive. But at least all parties will walk away knowing it was an honest conversation." 
8. "In the spring of 1966, Cesar Chavez led a 340-mile march of Latinx and Filipino farmworkers from California’s Central Valley to its state capital in an effort to draw attention to the mistreatment and terrible working conditions of his fellow farmworkers. That summer, the United Farm Workers was formed, and under Chavez’s leadership, it would become one of the most important civil rights and labor rights organizations in the country." 
9. "When I travel the country, I see that optimism in the eyes of five- and seven- and ten-year-olds who feel a sense of purpose in being part of the fight. I see it, and feel it, in the energy of the people I meet. Yes, people are marching. Yes, people are shouting. But they are doing it from a place of optimism. That’s why they’ve got their babies with them. That’s why my parents took me in a stroller to civil rights marches. Because as overwhelming as the circumstances may be, they believe, as I do, that a better future is possible for us all."
10. "In fact, in 2016, researchers found that more than half of Silicon Valley’s billion-dollar start-ups were founded by one or more immigrants."

Episode 65: Davidson Hang Reflections and Lessons on a Life Worth Living. Buying your First home tips and advice

Episode 65: Buying your First home tips and advice Sharing with you that it wasn't an easy process, and it took a lot to get me here, but I'm grateful for everyone who has helped contribute in some way. 

Tips for First Time Home Buyers

1. Start the research early. Speak with a mortgage broker early on. We started the conversation eight months before we bought the property. We bought a new construction, but I would recommend early on to know what to budget for so that you become knowledgeable about the whole process.

2. Make sure you don't work with too many mortgage brokers. I made the mistake of evaluating using three different brokers. Fortunately, I did get a pretty incredible rate, but it was quite stressful having to send so many documents. 

3. Focus on getting your credit score up. Luckily, my in-laws and my wife were pretty good about holding me accountable for doing the best I can to get my scores up. I was able to get my score up by a whole 100 points which significantly reduced my interest rate. 

4. Chat with your financial advisor to figure out what the new budget is going to be. This will give you peace of mind and allow you to be intentional about your range when working out your monthly costs. 

5. Make sure you have all of your bank statements, pay stubs, W2s for the last three years ready. You want to be proactive about getting your statements early- create a folder with all of these. It will help expedite the process. 

6. Stay in communication with your mortgage people regularly. If anything comes up and there is no such thing as a stupid question. I had so many questions because this was my first time and if you to be as knowledgable as possible. 

7. Make sure you stay organized because you will be getting so many emails and documents. Make sure you organize them in a way that is easy because there will be many things and tasks for you to accomplish. This will make your life easier as you will be referring back and forth a lot.

8. Make sure you are throughout when going through the appraisal and check-in process. We are fortunate enough to have a new property, so there weren't as many issues, and we were relatively on time with the closing. There are so many nuisances, so make sure your real estate agent attends the walkthroughs with you. It's nice to have another set of eyes to look at everything. 

9. Save up to 20% on the downpayment so that you don't have to worry about mortgage insurance. I know that not everyone has a 20% deposit, but this will make your life easier so that you don't have to pay extra money to take out a mortgage. 

 

10. Have fun throughout the process. It's a learning process, and although the process can be quite stressful. I've grown so much, and I've become a much better person during this process. Hit me up if you ever have any questions, and I'll help you the best I can.

 

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Episode 64:Davidson Hang Reflections and Lessons: Buying our first home

Sharing with you that it wasn't an easy process and it took a lot to get me here but I'm grateful for everyone who has helped contribute in some way. 

 

Thank you, David Chang, Jack Ma, Stacy Wiley, Jaffe, Theresa Meyer, Louise, Tommy Tran, Tim, and Carl.

Episode 63: Davidson Hang Reflections and Lessons: What I've learned from a Tony Robbins Mastermind Group

I wanted to share with you all takeaways from a Tony Robbins mastermind that I was blessed to be a part of. I hope everyone has a beautiful day!

 

Episode 62:Davidson Hang Reflections and Lessons; Do this every morning Tony Robbins exercise

Tony Robbin's questions that will help transform your state questions into gratitude, fulfillment, joy, and love.

Morning Power Questions

1. What am I happy about in my life now? What about that makes me happy? How does that make me feel?

2. What am I excited about in my life now? What about that makes me excited? How does that make me feel?

3. What am I proud about in my life now? What about that makes me proud? How does that make me feel?

4. What am I grateful about in my life now? What about that makes me grateful? How does that make me feel?

5. What am I enjoying most in my life right now? What about that do I enjoy? How does that make me feel good?

6. What am I committed to in my life right now? What about that makes me committed? How does that make me feel?

7. Who do I love? What loves me? What about that makes me loving? How does that make me feel?

Episode 61: Davidson Hang Reflections and Lessons from 2020

My Personal 2020 Year In Review Thank you, Bea for posting yours and inspiring me to share the same. This will be a reflection of my year. This year has been challenging for me- those of you who know me know that I am quite an extrovert. The beauty of this year is that we all got to focus more on family and had the opportunity to slow down. Although I miss the office greatly, I was able to read more books than I usually do because I now have the time to do so.

 

Lessons & Themes

 

1️⃣ How do you describe this year in 3-5 keywords?

1. Solitude- This year brought reflection and has helped me analyze whom I want to be in the world. Reflecting on the moments that gave me the most fulfillment at work was when I was coaching SDRs to get promoted. I was so grateful to be a part of the process when my friends Emily and Ryan were promoted. That gave me so much fulfillment. Also, with my coaching practice helping many of my clients land promotions or with their career transitions gave me a lot of joy to know that I've helped them get SDR positions. Even though I enjoy quiet time from now to then, jumping all of the way to the other extreme was quite hard for me initially, but I am now enjoying time hiking with myself in the mountains and woods. It's helped me listen to some of my favorite stories through audible.

2. Relationships: This time has helped me double down on relationships as I got the time to start my own men's group. I've never forget how I cried when they put together a video of gratitude for me where each of the guys shared how I've made a difference in their lives. To be able to be someone who can help create communities is a beautiful thing. I was also able to zoom with my best friends in other states and cities. I'm glad that even though we are all so career-oriented, we could connect and hang out again.

3. Love: With engagement, marriage, and moving into our first home. Being a homeowner was one of the biggest obstacles for me because I labeled myself someone who loves to travel, and I never thought it was possible to do both. Self-love through leveraging tools like Lyra and having an executive coach is key to personal fulfillment. I realized how much external validation I needed and this time being away from the office helped me be much more comfortable with myself. I am still Amazing without all of the accomplishments and accolades, and that's a beautiful thing to own. Opening myself up to my wife has been challenging too because as someone who labeled himself independent, I saw being tied down as something that would hamper my travel goals but in reality, she's the rock and foundation that has allowed me to grow tremendously being someone who is about something more than just myself.

4. Gratitude: Some of the most memorable moments were when we Video called with a BuildOn Ambassador, and it showed how much the villagers in Africa appreciated us helping them build a school. That was such a touching moment for me, and again to be able to see the Orphans in Vietnam whom we've contributed to was heartwarming. Being able to still be involved with many of the non-profits through Streetwise Partners, IMentor, and Pencil has also been highlights to impact new grads, high schoolers, and students in college.

5. Eye-opening: One of the most life-changing programs I did this year was Tony Robbin's Unleash the Power from Within. Tony is such a great storyteller when he shared with us his story of being an imposter, being someone who did not have enough education, and the financial means. He went into detail with all of his insecurities that helped me realize how I saw myself. Not having to travel to Florida or California but still being able to connect with other similar minded people helped me grow and step into my greatness. Thank you to everyone who've I've met through the Sales Success Summit, Next Level Training, and Tony Robbins this year. You have all made a massive difference in my life.

2️⃣ What were my top lessons learned?

1. Compassion: There is so much wasted energy trying to change people or trying to be righteous about what I think is the right way to live life. There was so much mental energy into wow, the government is controlling our lives- if I wanted to live in a dictatorship, I would move to a different country. Realizing that there is no right or wrong and that my perspective is just one perspective is a huge lesson for me. I can only control who I want to be in the world. Yes, like with any other country, there are ways I believe America can improve, but at the end of the day, we have many more luxuries than most countries most of the time. Striving for perfection gets you so far, but there is something peaceful about acceptance that I can move on once I accept something. That doesn't mean resignation, but at least when I accept something, there is some opportunity to build on it. If you want to read the rest of it check out my blog post. https://wp.me/p8Gxir-1Fx

Episode 60: Davidson Hang Reflections and Lessons: Best Books of 2020 Recommendations

These are my favorite books I’ve read in 2020 that I would recommend.

1. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth and Happiness- Eric Jorgenson, Jack Butcher, Tim Ferriss

2. I Can See Clearly Now– Wayne W. Dyer

3. The Magic of Thinking Big– David J Schwartz

4. Spirit Run: A 6,000-Mile Marathon Through North America’s Stolen Land–Noé Álvarez 5. What It Takes: Lessons in the Pursuit of Excellence–Stephen A. Schwarzman 6. The Impossible First: From Fire to Ice—Crossing Antarctica Alone–Colin O’Brady

7. Time Travel: Through Consciousness and Advanced Technology– Frederick Dodson

8. The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have Everything–Neil Pasricha

9. Notes from a Friend: A Quick and Simple Guide to Taking Control of Your Life- Tony Robbins

10. My Philosophy for Successful Living- Jim Rohn

11.Polishing the Mirror: How to Live from Your Spiritual Heart- Ram Dass 12. Zero Regrets: Be Greater Than Yesterday– Apolo Ohno

13. Think Like a Monk: Train Your Mind for Peace and Purpose Every Day– Jay Shetty

14. Conversations With God, Book 3: Embracing the Love of the Universe– Neale Donald Walsch

15. ADHD and the Edison Gene: A Drug-Free Approach to Managing the Unique Qualities of Your Child- Thom Hartmann

16. Built, Not Born: A Self-Made Billionaire’s No-Nonsense Guide for Entrepreneurs Tom Golisano, Mike Wicks

17. The Blue Zones, Second Edition: 9 Lessons for Living Longer From the People Who’ve Lived the Longest Dan Buettner

18. The TB12 Method: How to Achieve a Lifetime of Sustained Peak Performance- Tom Brady

19. North: Finding My Way While Running the Appalachian Trail–Scott Jurek

20. A Curious Mind: The Secret to a Bigger Life-Brian Grazer, Charles Fishman

21. Living an Inspired Life: Your Ultimate Calling–Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

22. Call Me Ted– Ted Turner, Bill Burke

23. 21 Lessons for the 21st Century– Yuval Noah Harari

24. Let Love Rule– Lenny Kravitz

25. PiHKAL: A Chemical Love Story– Alexander Shulgin, Ann Shulgin

26. White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism– Robin J. DiAngelo, Michael Eric Dyson

27. The Autobiography of Martin Luther King, Jr.– Clayborne Carson

28. The Brink: How Great Leadership Is Invented– Mark Hunter

29. Start Your Engines: My Unstoppable CrossFit Journey– Sam Briggs Face to Face: The Art of Human Connection– Brian Grazer

30. The Journey: Mastering the Art of Slowing Down into a Beautiful Existence– Cathy Trinh

31. As Many Reps as Possible– Jason Khalipa

32. How I Became The Fittest Woman On Earth: My Story So Far– Tia-Clair Toomey

33. Homeless to Billionaire: The 18 Principles of Wealth Attraction and Creating Unlimited Opportunity– Andres Pira, Joe Vitale

34. The Great Pause: Blessings & Wisdom from COVID-19– Elizabeth Hill, Dr. Barbara Milton, Dr. Davia H. Shepherd, Michael Robert Eck, Kathleen Troy, Elizabeth Hall, Melissa Molinero, Ryan Hall, Denise M. Simpson, Karla Archambeault, Jacqueline A. Baldwin, April Goff Brown, Anne Collin, Ian Charlery, Dr. Christine Rapp Dombrowski, Stephen Fowler, Davidson Hang, Michele Kean, Brittany Luna, Christine A. Mola, Caren Pauling, Gina Raposa Johnson, Kristi H. Sullivan, Mary Ann Waterman, Annamarie Wellington

35. Uncommon: Finding Your Path to Significance– Tony Dungy, Nathan Whitaker

36. Carry That Quota: Sales Tactics and Stories By the Rep For the Rep– Jesse Rothstein

37. Happy City: Transforming Our Lives Through Urban Design– Charles Montgomery

What are some of the favorite books you’ve read this year? Biographies I enjoyed- Lenny Kravitz- the founder of Paychex.

I enjoy reading biographies because you learn a lot from how deep into the human mind they go.