Davidson Hang Reflections and Lessons from a life worth living

Episode 50: Davidson Hang Reflections on a Life Worth Living- Takeaways from Conversations with God Book3

Some of my favorite passages from the book Conversations with God book 3. Shout out to Accomplishment Coaching to introduce me to the great Neale Donald Walsch

 

"Through you, I can know every aspect of Me. The perfection of the snowflake, the awesome beauty of the rose, the courage of lions, the majesty of eagles, all resides in you. In you I have placed all of these things—and one thing more: the consciousness to be aware of it."

"Life is a single occurrence, an event in the cosmos that is happening right now. All of it is happening. Everywhere. There is no “time” but now. There is no “place” but here." "Believing that you cannot have something is the same thing as not desiring to have it, for it produces the same result."

"You've moved away from each other. You've torn apart your families, disassembled your smaller communities in favor of huge cities. In these big cities there are more people, but fewer “tribes,” groups, or clans whose members see their responsibility as including responsibility for the whole. So, in effect, you have no elders. None at arm's reach, in any event."

 

"Ultimately, all thoughts are sponsored by love or fear. This is the great polarity. This is the primal duality. Everything, ultimately, breaks down to one of these. All thoughts, ideas, concepts, understandings, decisions, choices, and actions are based in one of these. And, in the end, there is really only one. Love." "Most people believe if they “have” a thing (more time, money, love—whatever), then they can finally “do” a thing (write a book, take up a hobby, go on vacation, buy a home, undertake a relationship), which will allow them to “be” a thing (happy, peaceful, content, or in love). In actuality, they are reversing the Be-Do-Have paradigm. In the universe as it really is (as opposed to how you think it is), “havingness” does not produce “beingness,” but the other way around. First you “be” the thing called “happy” (or “knowing,” or “wise,” or “compassionate,” or whatever), then you start “doing” things from this place of beingness—and soon you discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you've always wanted to “have.”

 

"Seek only to be genuine. Strive to be sincere. If you wish to undo all the “damage” you imagine yourself to have done, demonstrate that in your actions. Do what you can do. Then let it rest. That's easier said than done. Sometimes I feel so guilty. Guilt and fear are the only enemies of man."

 

"Yet I tell you this: So long as you are still worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them."

"Whatever you choose for yourself, give to another. If you choose to be happy, cause another to be happy. If you choose to be prosperous, cause another to prosper."

Let me know what you think about this book. Has anyone else read it? What books has anyone been reading that they would recommend to their peers during this time?

Episode 49: Davidson Hang Reflections on A life Worth Living- Takeaways from a truly profound book.

These are some of the passages from Conversations with God book 3 that resonated with me.

Let me know if any of these resonate with you too.

1. "They see a health-care system that is really a diseasecare system, spending one-tenth of its resources on preventing disease, and nine-tenths on managing it, and deny that profit motive is what stops any real progress on educating people in how to act and eat and live in a way which promotes good health." 
2. "For what you resist, persists. Only what you hold can disappear." 
3. “Right” and “wrong” are philosophical polarities in a human value system which have nothing to do with ultimate reality—a point which I have made repeatedly throughout this dialogue. They are, furthermore, not even constant constructs within your own system, but rather, values which keep shifting from time to time. You are doing the shifting, changing your mind about these values as it suits you" 
4. "In truth, there is no such reality. There is only one moment, and that is the eternal moment of Now." 
5. "Fear is that which you are not. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear is the opposite of love, which you have created in your reality so that you may know experientially That Which You Are." 
6. "This is the main difference between your culture—which is a “baby” culture, really; a primitive culture—and the highly evolved cultures of the universe. The most significant difference is that in highly evolved cultures, all sentient beings are clear that there is no separation between themselves and what you call “God.” They are also clear that there is no separation between themselves and others. They know that they are each having an individual experience of the whole." 
7. "Their First Guiding Principle is: We Are All One." 
8. "Yet right now one-fifth of the world's people are using four-fifths of the world's resources. And you show no signs of changing that equation. There is enough for everybody if you would stop thoughtlessly squandering all of it on the privileged few. If all people used resources wisely, you would use less than you do with a few people using them unwisely. Use the resources, but don't abuse the resources." 
9. "As for communication, a HEB uses as his first level of communication the aspect of his being which you would call feelings. HEBs are aware of their feelings and the feelings of others, and no attempt is ever made by anyone to hide feelings."
10. "If you decided that “we are all one,” you would cease treating each other the way you do. If you decided that “there's enough,” you would share everything with everyone. If you decided that “there's nothing we have to do,” you would stop trying to use “doingness” to solve your problems, but rather, move to, and come from, a state of being which would cause your experience of those “problems” to disappear, and the conditions themselves to thus evaporate." 

 

Episode 48:Davidson Hang Reflections on a Life Worth Living- Takeaways from Lewis Howe's Summit of Greatness in 2020

These are my top ten takeaways from the summit of greatness in 2020.

1. How to build a community by adding value to everyone and serving the world

2. Being of service and continue enriching the lives of your members

3. Surround yourself with amazing people

4. Live a life of gratitude, cherish the down moments because they will lead you to where you are right now

5. Practice acknowledging people. Lewis is a master of acknowledgment, which is such a valuable skill the more people you impact in your life. Practice being with people and all of the different emotions that come up in life, especially during a pandemic.

6. Play a bigger game- when you think you are reaching the outer limits of your comfort zone, think bigger. You will surprise yourself when you set bigger goals for yourself.

7. Create a platform for others to share their stories. Humans love being able to hear stories and the bad ones are the most relatable.

8. His friendship with Jay Shetty touched my heart. They really do care about each other you see it in their interactions.

9. Rolling with the punches despite all of the technical difficulties, he can still create and not make it mean anything about himself and move forward.

10. Having fun in the process- what's success if you aren't laughing and smiling during the way up.

Episode 47: Davidson Hang Reflections Labor Day weekend

It feels so nice to unwind and recharge. I hope you all take this time to relax and take care of yourself. Happy long weekend! 

Episode 46:Davidson Hang Reflections August 29, 2020

What a month! Having a great month work-wise, with buying a house, moving out of NYC, and planning the wedding in October. It's going to be a busy year for me. 

Episode 45: Davidson Hang Reflections August 17, 2020

Takeaways, gratitude, practice and reflections on an interesting year for sure. 

Episode 44: Davidson Hang Reflections August 11, 2020

Thank you Jeff for your accountability. I wanted to be consistent with sharing my journey because it helps me reflect and acknowledge myself for a productive day. We are often our worst critics. This is a healthy practice designed to help you be compassionate to yourself. 

Episode 43: Davidson Hang Reflections August 2020 5 months of COVID reflections

It's been awhile journey so much has changed and I am grateful for all of your support.

 

What a tough period it is for everyone. 

In the last five months, we've experienced people coming into the realization that race is a topic that we haven't discussed. 

These are some of the reflections and things I've learned from the last five months of COVID.

1. Friends and family: Relationships Matter - People coming together to help support each other. There is an abundance amongst the chaos.
2. We Americans are prideful and do not like listening to authority- Guilty as charged. I'm certainly someone who is rebellious when someone tells me to do something I tend to do the opposite. I think that's what makes American so Innovative but at the same time its a curse because of what's going on right now. it just seems like we are not able to obey any suggestions despite everyone knowing that it's highly contagious. 
3. Everything happens for a reason- my company had a lay off of 960 people. I remember feeling so down and devastated when I was let go in many of my previous positions. It led me to LinkedIn right now, and I am so grateful, but I remember feeling so lost and confused during those troubling times. 
4. We are Resilence- humans are such strong creatures. We can create anything we put into mind to it. I've heard so many inspiring stories of people coming together, and I've read a lot of touching stories of transformation and growth amongst racial tensions. I feel much more woke and still have a long way to go, but at least I'm making a conscious effort at the end of the day its a decision. 
5. Asians in Sales Community- I had no longer so many others felt the same way about being many times the only Asian on their client-facing role. It's great to create a community where we support each other during these times. I'm happy that there is a place where we come together to support our black Allies. 
6. My Fiancee is so lovely. She took care of me when I was recovering from Lasek, and I'm grateful that she came up to NYC to take care of me. I'm very fortunate that I have such a loving and giving partner. We have a good yin/yang balance, which makes life easier because we compliment each other so well. We don't see eye to, but we are growing and improving and learning to support each other the best way we can. 
7. I'm so lucky to have the best friends who are so supportive. When you surround yourself with people who make you happy all of the time, Life is so much better. I'm fortunate I can call up Pan, Sue, Jeff, Brandon, Prem, and so many other people and just be able to chat through any issues or stuff that's coming up. I'm grateful for the opportunity to connect with people globally now that distance is less of a barrier as society transforms into a more connected universe. 
8. Becoming a trusted partner- I see myself stepping into the role and becoming a more consultative person. I see that I am being curious, asking more questions, and questioning my preconceived notions. It's refreshing to see such growth in the last five months alone. 
9. Trusting my instincts and being able to write more. I care a little bit less about what people think of my writing, which is excellent! 
10. Partnering with other people and leveraging everyone's else talents. Life is so much fun with you surround yourself with people who complement your skill. I'm never going to be the best at everything but I can surround myself with people who are always willing to lend a hand who make me better especially at the times I need a lot of work on. 

Orphans Future Alliance Fundraiser

Last year, I was able to raise $3,439 of dollars to impact 44 children in Vietnam and Southeast Asia. It was really rewarding for me to be involved with this because I am Vietnamese and we all have so much privilege compared to these Orphans in Vietnam. it's such a rewarding cause and I appreciate Thank you to everyone who contributed to this cause. It means a lot to me.

 

How has your support impacted Orphans’ Futures Alliance today? With your generous support, we have implemented and continue to expand the scholarship and mentoring programs in Vietnam with 34 children for Scholarship and 44 in the Mentoring programs for 2019. We have started to support our second partner in Chiangmai, Thailand by providing scholarships for 15 kids.

Since our founding in 2012, we have impacted 575 children through our scholarships and various confidence-building and nurturing activities. For the 2020-2021 school year, we aim to support 115 kids for a total cost of $115,000.

Our Programs: Scholarship Program: The purpose is to support a student’s education, awarded based on academic needs and achievements, as well as other criteria, such as alignment with OrFA’s mission. Those who are in the scholarship program are automatically enrolled in the mentoring program. Mentoring Program: The purpose of our 1:1 mentoring pairing is to help orphans develop and maintain a stable mental state and a positive outlook in life. We believe that by having a mentor, the children will have an added support/role model/friend to help guide them throughout their adolescence. In turn, we hope that this will empower them to have more confidence in their decisions, stimulate their passion and drive to pursue their dreams, and overcome any obstacles that life may bring. It is our mission that they will become their best selves and truly shine.

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Episode 42: Davidson Hang Reflections: White Fragility

These are some of the quotes that stood out to me from reading this book.

"I am also using my insider status to challenge racism. To not use my position this way is to uphold racism, and that is unacceptable; it is a “both/and” that I must live with. I would never suggest that mine is the only voice that should be heard, only that it is one of the many pieces needed to solve the overall puzzle. People who do not identify as white may also find this book helpful for understanding why it is so often difficult to talk to white people about racism." 

"Multiracial people, because they challenge racial constructs and boundaries, face unique challenges in a society in which racial categories have profound meaning. The dominant society will assign them the racial identity they most physically resemble, but their own internal racial identity may not align with the assigned identity. For example, though the musician Bob Marley was multiracial, society perceived him as black and thus responded to him as if he were black." 

"When multiracial people’s racial identity is ambiguous, they will face constant pressure to explain themselves and “choose a side.” Racial identity for multiracial people is further complicated by the racial identity of their parents and the racial demographics of the community in which they are raised."

"White people in North America live in a society that is deeply separate and unequal by race, and white people are the beneficiaries of that separation and inequality. As a result, we are insulated from racial stress, at the same time that we come to feel entitled to and deserving of our advantage. " 

"But exploring these cultural frameworks can be particularly challenging in Western culture precisely because of two key Western ideologies: individualism and objectivity. 

"Briefly, individualism holds that we are each unique and stand apart from others, even those within our social groups. Objectivity tells us that it is possible to be free of all bias. These ideologies make it very difficult for white people to explore the collective aspects of the white experience. 

"Individualism is a story line that creates, communicates, reproduces, and reinforces the concept that each of us is a unique individual and that our group memberships, such as race, class, or gender, are irrelevant to our opportunities. Individualism claims that there are no intrinsic barriers to individual success and that failure is not a consequence of social structures but comes from individual character." 

for example, we look at the racial breakdown of the people who control our institutions, we see telling numbers in 2016–2017:

• Ten richest Americans: 100 percent white (seven of whom are among the ten richest in the world)

• US Congress: 90 percent white

• US governors: 96 percent white

• Top military advisers: 100 percent white

• President and vice president: 100 percent white

• US House Freedom Caucus: 99 percent white

• Current US presidential cabinet: 91 percent white

• People who decide which TV shows we see: 93 percent white

• People who decide which books we read: 90 percent white

• People who decide which news is covered: 85 percent white

• People who decide which music is produced: 95 percent white

• People who directed the one hundred top-grossing films of all time, worldwide: 95 percent white

• Teachers: 82 percent white

• Full-time college professors: 84 percent white

• Owners of men’s professional football teams: 97 percent white